Talking about female sexuality continues to be uncomfortable. Not because there isn’t interest, but because it is rarely addressed with serene, informed language free of caricatures. It is talked about—yes—but often with nervous laughter, double entendre, or judgment.
Obstetrician and sexologist Lyzzeth Alvarado explains it clearly: it’s not that there’s no need to talk about the subject; it’s that taboos, inherited beliefs, and cultural learnings still weigh heavily, making it difficult to do so naturally. Sexuality, she points out, has been transmitted for generations more as a warning than as knowledge.
Reconnecting with the body begins, then, by dismantling that inheritance.
One of the central contributions of contemporary sexology is to depathologize sexuality. It’s not about seeking help only when something “is wrong,” but about understanding that professional accompaniment can also open up possibilities. Understanding how our body works, how it responds, and how it changes with life stages is not a luxury: it is part of self-knowledge.
And self-knowledge begins with something elemental and profoundly transformative: the gaze.
Many women have not observed themselves naked without judgment. They look at themselves, yes, but through a critical voice that enumerates defects. The exercise Liset proposes is different: looking at oneself with attention and recognizing what is good, what one likes, what is one’s own. It’s not about denying insecurities, but about not allowing the critical gaze to be the only one.
Then comes touch.
Learning to touch oneself not only for pleasure, but for familiarity. Knowing one’s own anatomy, observing the genitals, understanding their shape, texture, and changes. This step is not minor: many women arrive at consultations having never explored their vulva. Lack of knowledge not only limits pleasure; it can also affect health.
But reconnecting doesn’t mean centering everything on the genitals. Liset speaks of de-genitalizing sexuality: broadening the body map. The entire skin is sensitive. Sensations are not confined to a specific area. Rediscovering the body means accepting that we are more than a set of isolated parts.
It also means recognizing that our biology influences us. The menstrual cycle, ovulation, menstruation, perimenopause, and menopause modify energy, mood, and desire. Understanding these processes helps to stop interpreting every variation as a personal failure. It is not instability; it is nature.
Another crucial point is autonomy.
There is a frequent confusion between having sexual activity and having sexual sovereignty. They are not the same. Autonomy implies deciding from one’s own desire, not from the need for approval. Many women appear confident, but they continue to measure their worth based on external validation: from their partner, from their group of friends, from social standards.
True connection does not require exhibition.
Reconnecting with the body is also unlearning comparisons. Not all of us have the same frequency of desire, nor the same preferences, nor the same rhythms. There is no universal template to fulfill. Sexuality is an individual experience before it is a collective performance.
A simple exercise can open the way: choosing music that identifies with us, creating a private space, and applying cream or oil to the skin with full attention. Not while solving pending tasks. Not as an automatic chore. With presence.
Consciousness transforms the everyday.
The impact of this process goes beyond the erotic realm. Liset observes how, when a woman recognizes herself as an autonomous sexual being, her posture, her gaze, and her way of taking up space change. Self-esteem is not built solely with positive discourses; it is also strengthened when the body stops being a territory of criticism and becomes its own territory.
Reconnecting with the body is not a radical act. It is a return. A return to direct experience, to sensation, to internal listening. It is remembering that sexuality is not an accessory to our identity, but a dimension that accompanies us throughout life.
And when we stop looking at ourselves from the outside to start inhabiting ourselves from within, something falls into place. Not because we have achieved an ideal, but because we begin to recognize ourselves as complete.
You can watch the complementary episode here: https://youtu.be/4oD_qm0f-ZE
