Some topics remain shrouded in silence, even among women. Not because they don’t exist, but because we learned to discuss them in a whisper. Intimate well-being is one of them: it is mentioned, it is hinted at, but it is rarely explored from real experience, with its nuances, discomforts, and contradictions.
Talking about intimate well-being is not just talking about pleasure. It is talking about care, connection, giving, and receiving. And also—though it is difficult to admit—about what we do without necessarily finding it comfortable, but which is part of shared intimacy.
For Yuriyana Club, opening this space has meant daring to put words where there were previously silences. This is not to impose a way of living sexuality, but to recognize that many of us share similar questions, similar sensations, and similar discomforts.
Ursula Pfeiffer states it honestly: for a long time, the conversation about female sexuality has been permeated by references that do not represent us. Images, stories, and expectations have little to do with how we actually experience intimacy. And when that happens, what should be connection often turns into a demand.
Pleasure Is Not Always Symmetrical
There is something that is rarely said aloud: not everything in intimacy is comfortable, and that does not make us less open, less generous, or less desiring. There are practices that, for many women, are experienced more from giving than from enjoying. And acknowledging this does not diminish the value of the bond; on the contrary, it makes it more honest.
Ursula invites us to observe this without guilt: understanding that intimate well-being also involves asking ourselves how we feel in these exchanges, not just if the other person is satisfied. Because when the focus is always external, the body begins to tense up, get tired, and fall silent.
Irma Alarcón speaks from shared experience among friends: there are things that might seem difficult, even uncomfortable, at first, and which become normalized over time. But naturalizing does not always mean enjoying. Sometimes it just means adapting.
And then an important question arises: what would happen if we could talk about that without shame?
Naming Discomfort Is Also Self-Care
Intimate well-being is not built by ignoring the body, but by listening to it. And listening implies accepting that there are sensations that do not fit the ideal we were sold. Sensations that are not seen in pornography, that do not appear in jokes, that do not usually have space in public conversation.
From Yuriyana Club, this initiative seeks precisely to open that space: one where we can say, “this is not comfortable for me,” without feeling like we are failing. Where we can explore alternatives, support, and tools, without drama and without impositions.
It is not about changing who we are, or fulfilling others’ expectations. It is about taking care of ourselves in intimacy as well.
Intimacy as Dialogue, Not as Performance
There is a profound difference between experiencing sexuality as dialogue and experiencing it as performance. In performance, there is pressure: to do it well, to do it enough, to do it as one “should”. In dialogue, there is listening: to the other person and to oneself.
Irma reminds us of something simple yet powerful: many of these conversations only happen when there is trust. And even then, even among close friends, there are topics that remain unspoken. Not because they don’t matter, but because we don’t know exactly how to name them.
Therefore, talking about intimate well-being is not just talking about pleasure. It is talking about language, permission, and community. It is about knowing that we are not alone in what we feel.
A Space to Talk Without Judgment
This initiative does not revolve around magic solutions.
It is about offering something more honest: a space where the body is not a problem to be corrected or a mystery for others to explain, but a territory of one’s own—alive and worthy of attention.
A space where we can explore—alone or with a partner—without aggression, without caricatures, and without the feeling of “doing something wrong”.
Intimate well-being is also being able to say: this yes, this no, this this way, this not yet. And knowing that all those answers are valid.
Continuing the Conversation
Opening this conversation does not mean having all the answers. It means something more important: being willing to keep asking questions. To keep listening to each other. To keep growing together.
Because intimate well-being is not a destination. It is a process. And like every human process, it is better experienced when it is not lived in silence.
We invite you to watch the complementary video “Intimate Well-being,” where our co-founders Ursula Pfeiffer and Irma Alarcón delve deeper into this conversation: https://youtu.be/VFgRIL_KMAE
